“I don’t consider myself a feminist, I prefer to call myself a humanist or an egalitarian.”— Pseudo-intellectual white dude who prefers to imagine that he’s more enlightened than feminists and also is uncomfortable with the thought that he’s part of the problem and also has a incorrect conception of feminism. (via brighterthanroses)
“It does not matter if a boundary makes sense to you. It does not matter if it seems inconsequential to you. Boundaries are the prerogative of the person who sets them. You do not know that person’s story, and they are not obligated to justify their boundaries to you. That touch that seems insignificant to you may be uncomfortably intimate for someone else. That interaction that is fine with others may trigger someone’s PTSD. You do not know more about someone than they know about themselves. Trust that they know what they are doing when they set a boundary with you, even if you do not understand why.
When someone sets a boundary with you they are saying “no.” No means no. Do not push people on their boundaries or ask for explanations that are not readily given. Doing these things indicates that you do not respect their boundaries. For many people, saying “no” once, setting a boundary, is difficult enough. Do not put them in a position where they must repeatedly do so. No means no the first time. Pushing them on it suggests a hope that you can wear them down, which is problematic at best and predatory at worst. No means no.”—Ally Smells: Boundaries | Geek Feminism Blog (via brutereason)
“How many times have you seen a reluctant child being forced towards a looming relative in order to be hugged or kissed against their will? […] What’s the message the child is receiving from those people she or he is supposed to trust the most?”—A. R. Goldstein. Bea Magazine. “What do we teach small children about consent?” Available online. (via fallingskyhooks)